Goals have a direction in mind. By setting goals we are setting the trajectory for where we want to be and who we want to become.
It seems like almost everyone is setting New Years resolutions, but the sad reality is that few people actually complete them. Maybe some are overambitious, some don’t have a plan to get there, but I think most fail because people spend more time on the what than the why. They are trying to do something instead of be someone.
People make resolutions to hit the gym, or drop a waist size, or start writing on their blog again. Instead, what if we set goals to be a healthy person, or foster our creativity as a writer because it makes us feel alive, or be a more generous person. What we do will ebb and flow through life – the things I wanted to accomplish in college are different now that I have kids. But who we want to be, that can set the trajectory for our whole life.
Getting My Bearing
So, who do I want to become? I’m still unearthing the right words, but here are a few I think heading in the right direction:
Wake up fresh to possibility. Give away my life, talents, and resources for other people. Sacrificially love my wife and kids. Be a true friend. Always error on the side of generosity -- with people, with possessions, and with dashes1. Be more fully me.
So, with that guiding me, here are some practical ways I hope to live that out this year.
- Write 2 blog posts a month - Words matter. I want my words to make a difference in the world. I also want to be a better writer and that will take practice.
- Have date night with my wife every week - It is so easy with kids and work and life to neglect your marriage. Lauren and I decided to make a date night once a week, even if we just sit and have coffee and talk after the kids go to bed. At least once a month we’re going to get out of the house.
- Plant a garden - I’ve found since most of my work happens at the computer, working with my hands is very cathartic. Woodworking in the garage, climbing at Foster Falls, or tending my garden all bring me peace and a sense of accomplishment. My garden fell into disrepair last year, so I want to breathe some fresh life into it this year.
- Speak at a conference - This actually came out by accident (I think my subconscious did it when I wasn’t looking). But seriously, I’d like to share some of the knowledge I have and the mistakes I’ve made to help other people get better at what they do.
- Release another app - I have really enjoyed working on Prayer Notebook and I’m excited about a couple of ideas Brett and I have brewing over at Kalon.
- Read through the Bible - I did this two years ago and it was life-changing. So many themes were connected for me and it brought a real depth to my understanding of the scripture.
- Fast once a month - I suck at fasting, but it is so good for my soul. It forces me to say no to myself so I can hear the prompting of God and see the needs of others.
- Mentor someone else - Help someone take their next step in faith. Walk beside them. Listen well. Share what I’ve learned so far.
I’ve tried to keep my list fairly short, so I can stay focused on making these goals a reality and allow them to shape me into the man I want to become.
- My favorite punctuation. ↩
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